Cum denial is power.
Over the past several months I have taken my edging to a new level. Everything I have written to this point has been about edging in terms of individual sessions. Stroking for hours before unloading.
In recent months I have begun practicing extended cum denial, and the benefits are exotic. Instead of cumming at the end of an edging session, I deny the cum, accumulating days and days without release.
This practice creates an ever-increasing sexual energy that is difficult to describe if you've never experienced it personally. It takes a few days to get there. One edge buddy described it as having the brake and the gas pedal both mashed to the floorboard. What an exotic contradiction is edging.
Because I'm not cumming at the end of a long edge session, my cock is never entirely out of my thoughts for one moment. After a few days, you find yourself living in a sexually energized state. Males of every age around you seem to radiate sexuality. I love simply going to Wal-mart, where every man in every aisle seems sexualized. Life becomes sexual, even when you are not actively masturbating.
The practices of Kama Sutra and tantric yoga both describe this phenomenon, deliberately denying ejaculation after deliberately urging the cock to want to cum. This concept has been around for a long time. It is the principle I have described earlier, where the goal is NOT to cum, just carried to its next logical level.
It is a man's nature to cum. Extended cum retention defies this physiology and the results are extraordinary. It is a feeling of power - both power over one's own cock, and the powerful energy that builds in your balls and groin.
I feel like this description is rather inadequate to convey what this experience is like. I had intended to write in more detail, but I don't know what else to say. If you have tried edging for single sessions, you will probably understand the concept here. To work with this, you must understand that the goal is not to cum, and that the cock's urgency to cum anyway can be overruled.
I have just recently begun to explore full edging and this is a very accurate description of what I've been experiencing for the last week. I have found that "less is more" and that I can be highly aroused without heavy stroking and still feel the benefits of approaching the edge. I'd love to chat with you about edging more, my yahoo ID is elektrocubb77... I think you would be a great edging mentor for someone like me.
ReplyDeleteHey Joe - I can't stop thinking about your observations since finding your blog last night. I am particularly drawn to your description of the hyper-awareness of male sexuality you experience as a result of long-term edging and cum retention. It's something I have achieved through dedicated penis manipulation and chronic masturbation. Would love to discuss it with you...
ReplyDeleteI travel frequently for work and spend most of my time in airports and hotels tuned into the phallic energy of the males around me. It's amazing to me that so many men respond. Sometimes they know exactly what's happening and sometimes they are clueless but the raw sexual energy is so blatant and obvious. Love getting that knowing look, that discrete or not so discrete tug on the cock or other sign that a fellow male recognized the bond of phallic energy. It's such a rush that it goes beyond a turn-on into a total mind/body rush.
Really appreciate your thoughtful insights. Hope we get to correspond.
Bull
Elecktrocub - I've sent you an email.
ReplyDeleteBull - I have no contact info for you, so please email me at show_joe_00@yahoo.com.
Absolutely on target.
ReplyDeletei am training to become a dog. obedience is a major element in that, and cum denial is a hugely effective method of encouraging almost constant arousal and desire.
And yes, the increased sexual energy and attraction to other males is wonderfully distracting, drawing attention away from human endeavor to animal lusting.
The penis rules!
I am on my 5th day without ejaculating.. Usually I cum on fifth/sixth day and i would climax with lot of cum in about 5 hour session.. Nowadays, I feel that my cock would hold for some more days..obviously reading articles on net has inspired me.. I have been doing kegel exercises for some time now.. I feel that my ability to control ejaculation has definitely increased to many folds in last couple of months.. What is the most astonishing part is my horniness that keeps building up throughout my body..even after 5 days.. Today at work, I just couldnt keep myself thinking other than my penis and my horniness.. Pls keep posting.. This will inspire many of us to explore the unexplored..
ReplyDeletefor the last 5 days im feeling the same you guys inspre me to go longer
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I've practice edging without cumming for a while and now is my longest period haven't cum for 31 days and I'm edging every night. can you imagin how serious urge to cum am i now...every single movement I'm carving to unload my 1 full month load....
ReplyDeleteOf fuck ... after 7 days w/o cumming I become a wild animal. The only thing I can think of is my cock and how horny I am. EVERY male I get close makes me rock hard; oh fuck...It's so good. I'm so glad I got knowing the pleasures of edging and cum denying.You guys, have no idea how hard my dick is writting this to you all. Let's keep on talking about our feelings. Hugs, André
ReplyDeleteAfter years of experimenting with Semen Retention, I finally decided on 2/21/11 to get serious and work on going permanent. I've ejaculated 6 times since then, the last time on 12/9/12. I'd like to feel confident that was the LAST time, but I doubt I'm quite there yet. I edge BTW at every opportunity. Communicating with others in long term extreme edging/cum denial would really help me reach my goal. Thanks in advance. Currus441@yahoo.com
ReplyDeletePeter, I would sure enjoy communicating with you again. Haven't had a chat since last year sometime. Ray flash8817@gmail.com
DeleteWow! I'm usually very good at extreme cum denial myself and have been doing this for several years usually cumming twice a week. I have had occasional events where I've lost control and this happened one night recently when I was edging all night for a number of hours and had three accidents in three hours. I've re-examined my powerful control and have been extremely careful lately as I don't want this to happen and it hasn't for a week now. I'm riding the edge as I type this and am ejoying it immensely.
ReplyDeleteI really enjoyed reading your blog. Hopefully I can last long as you are. Like weeks without cumming but enjoying that heightened sensation.
ReplyDeleteThe only problem I encountered with edging so far is that I don't know how to stop! When I have all the time on my hands, I just edge and edge, pausing only if I have to do something. Unlike before, when my edging sessions usually ends in ejaculation, I have started to delay cumming already and found myself getting so into the edge play, curious about that increasing intensity you experience each day.
Hopefully I'll keep up. Thanks for the advice and stories!
After a few days of denial, my balls get uncomfortably sore and alarmingly firm, which resolves when I ejaculate in distress. Do you experience this "blue-balls" syndrome, and if so, how do you overcome it?
ReplyDeleteOnce, I corresponded for a few months with guy who never ejaculated. He was into getting others to commit permanently this too.
ReplyDeleteI followed him, but found that I entered a state of unrelievable horniness so distracting, that I could not function properly at work.
Edging (long or short term), is like being on a spiral; you get closer and closer to the centre, but you can never actually reach it.
Editor's Note: (See comment above.)
ReplyDeleteI have come to enjoy the energy that comes with unrelieved horniness. There is a heightened awareness of ones surroundings, and a driving anticipation of the next masturbation session.
I love the analogy of the spiral, never reaching the center. For many non-edgers, this would appear to be a negative. For those of us who deny/postpone ejaculation, it means the high does not end.
- Show Joe
Better and better at edging and can now stay in the zone most of the day. I have not had an accident in a long time. Sometimes five drops or so spillage when I've been stroking too fast and strong but seem to be able to gain control quickly. I know I'll never be a pro at edging without ejaculation but I trying to perfect my technique to be as safe as possible all the time. I am always unhappy with any accidental spillage even a few drops and am ever vigilant about surprises. Refractory time is very unpleasant to me even if it's only 5 minutes. I always want to begin exactly where I stopped during the previous session. This is not easy to learn which you of course have warned everyone. Thanks for all the tips and knowledge about edging. Ray
ReplyDeleteHey this blog is amazing. Im a 29 yr old male who has embarked on a cum denial journey. .I've been going 4 days now and my edge session I do abt 3-5 of them a day..im hella horny & the sensation in my balls groin and penis is amazing. Email me @ socxs84@yahoo.com
ReplyDeleteGooning to the max today with precum flowing since i awakened up at 4 a.m. Almost had an accident but gripped my penis base very tightly for about a minute and was successful at preventing ejaculation. My jockstrap is entirely soaked with precum and I even peed in my jock I got so fuckin' excited but luck is with me and has been for a long time. Nature has given me a strong will with good control. I know you don't advocate any of this for your readers but I somehow am able to get by doing this much activity. I cannot go a day without many hours of edging. I do take breaks but usually watch some kind of porn during my off time. I've met many guys like me on various sites and and many can do this too. I definitely advocate cum denial and do the best I can with my overpowering libido. I guess you're well over 100 days by now. I usually can last about 30 days without anything major happening. Sometimes about 5 drops of precious semen escapes but very, very infrequently. Cumming depresses me and makes me feel sick so I do not allow this to happen and with my skill I'm hoping it will never happen again. Believe me any semen escaping is an accident and not a breakdown of willpower and not say "what the hell, just this one time" etc. These infrequent events are simply caused by misjudging PONR by a fraction and practice is helping me very much. I do hope the day will come when accidents never happen but if not I am living a happy enjoyable solosexual lifestyle and will always be able to say I tried my best to avoid cumming. I hope all you guys understand my situation without judgement. It would be nice to receive some feedback as I'm always ready and eager to listen to all points of view. Ray
ReplyDeleteI am with you 100% Ray. Feel free to contact me.
DeleteCiao. I'm a 25 years old Italian and I m starting the edging path for pleasure and health. I don't know others edgers and I would like to meet someone that guide and teach me seriously. Mail me at julesmysticpath@ymail.con
ReplyDeleteNakedDanny here. (Google me)
ReplyDeleteMy record for edging and cum denial is 38 days. I am currently 30 days into a Marathon that will set a new personal record for me: 70 days! I am so turned on that I can barely stand it. I can get to the PONR in about 60 seconds. And I can stay there for well over an hour. I am doing this several times a day. My daily edging also includes naked driving and public nudity. So the excitement level is off the charts. I will let you know if I set my new record - or at least surpass my old one.
I was separated from my wife and living with a married couple. They had a guestroom with a bookcase of sexual manuals. I opened one and found a section on edging. I was fascinated and started practicing edging. I did the exciting to hard and stimulation to the very edge then stopped and let my cock relax. I did this for over and hour. The longer I did it the less time it took to get to that wonderful edge. After about 90 minutes all it took was a simple touch to get me to the edge of cumming. I hadn't even got an erection and I was ready to cum. There was a subconscious discussing going on between me and my penis. My penis wasn't to going to take control but I had taken control. So my penis wouldn't get hard any more and all I had to do was simply touch it and I came a huge pleasureful load from a shrunken cock. It blew me away. That was over 20 years ago. I have done similar edging since but nothing compares to that first time.
ReplyDeleteI guess most of you here are living solo lives? I kind of fell into this due to being in the Cuckold lifestyle. My wife and I agree I can only cum maybe once every month or so because it keeps me very very attentive to her because of the hyper sensitivity all of you are talking about. My fear was maybe there might be a possibility of it being bad for me, but considering all of you are pushing yourselves as much if not more than I am, I think I will push for longer periods of time. It truly is amazing the feeling after a week or so and it just keeps growing. Has anyone heard of adverse physical issues with this sort of thing?
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DeleteI recently visited the blog of a man who wears a cock cage because it makes him more attentive to his wife's needs by subjugating his own male needs.
Men have been practicing these techniques for centuries, Asian cultures in particular. There is really nothing new here. These cultures have no higher incidence of physical issues than men who cum regularly.
Show Joe - moderator
Thank you Joe!
DeleteAfter more investigation I think you are correct. I wear a cock cage whenever I am not with my wife, because I used to let my cock be in control as you put it and I would cum when I wasn't with her. Bad thing for my attentive state. She LOVES knowing I am locked up and knows how attentive I stay.
Your comments about hypersensitivity and everyone radiating sexuality, I guess men in many of your guys cases, but both men and women in mine. It is fun to live my life on that sexual high, all the time.
I can really see the appeal to you guys. I don't get to play with myself as much as you guys because of my cage, but I certainly do get the same rush, which is only added to from our other activities.
I think I will see how long I can go, although it really isn't my choice. LOL
I am REALLY glad I found your sight. Thank you.
Ian
My longest time was 49 days -- overseas travel, work, busy, busy. (BTW, the release was a bit anti-climactic, which was interesting. I think one's body can also adjust UP to more powerful orgasms if you haven't denied for too long--all off topic!). So I'm on an extended edge for a couple of days. Don't do it often but I have techniques that make it much easier than most of the blogs and discussions on this wonderful site suggest--for me at least. And techniques I haven't run across yet--in my brief survey of this site. I'm writing it up as a contribution... I think I can coalesce my ideas around two issues: closed-up/kegelling seems to increase my rush to PONR, a useful/easy kind of control to get back close. A brief kegel when one is fading off thew high gets you back "there." Second point is I use the penile shaft as a separate sex organ -- with mid shaft and base stimulation as ways to really control the rate of approach to PONR. This allows even vigorous play with only minimal further arousal--in other words good control to stay just below PONR. Just had six micro-orgasm twitches without cumming, and done that twice. Bit too close for comfort. I'm trying to extend my present 7 day denial--and this site helps. Meeting buff partner this afternoon will be a bit more difficult as I introduce the subject of edging for the first time.
ReplyDeleteObviously I'd be interested to compare experience. Nice to know there are folks out there who might read such.
Cheers, Jason
I have been over 30 days ,but i had to be carefull because i was so horny than i could eyaculate with minimal friction.
ReplyDeleteWhen i cum ,I felt the same Jason explained : the release was anti-climactic.
Great blog .
Ah,Jason i would love read more : i found interesting your use of mid shaft.
Still practicing denial and as I grow older it is easier. Today I have been extremely horny all day watching tumblr etc. Edged for two hours this morning but just can't seem to get my mind off my penis today. I am at it now again and it is rock hard. Everytime I feel like I might have an accident I take my hands off or avoid the head and upper sensitive area. I agree that mid shaft masturbation does seem to work if I haven't gone too far and don't want to risk ejaculation. I love my penis. It is the greatest gift of nature ever given to men. Ni wish every man could learn how to edge. Most men don't know what they are missing.
ReplyDeletei have been doing tantra semen retention for many months--I usually go 21 days then ejaculate. I include my wife in my experiences, except when I masturbate. Love this--makes my penis so sensitive, makes me horny and energized--I am 66 years old and suffer from ED of sorts, although this helps a lot!!!
ReplyDeleteI have been doing tantra semen retention for many months now--I go 21 days then ejaculate. I include my wife in sex but not masturbation sessions, some of which last for hours. I am 66, have ED but this helps, and love this. My penis is so much more sensitive, I am so energized and horny all the time, and the joy of reaching near-orgasms is actually more pleasurable than an ejaculation. I get a sexual high. my e-mail is chopin7777@aol.com
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