Solosexuality

A couple of years ago I read someone's blog entry that said he did not consider himself to be heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. He described himself as "solosexual," that his primary sexual focus was his own cock.

Since then I have chatted with any number of men who apply the same term to themselves, a conscious preference for self masturbation. I am solosexual.

No one can do you like you can do yourself. Once you achieve a certain level of edging, you reach a point where no one else can possibly monitor the delicate balance required to maintain a prolonged edge without a decrease in the intensity of the sensations. I regularly edge for hours at a time and there is simply no way another person could sustain me that long.

I received an email a while back from a man who said he was unable to "last" as long with his girlfriend as when working his cock solo. He said, "Masturbation is pretty much my only outlet." I replied that I would not consider masturbation to be an "only outlet." It sounded like his primary sexuality was solosex, and sex with the girlfriend was secondary.

I have chatted online with any number of edgers who say their partners cannot take them to the level they can take themselves. I've watched videos of cocks being "edged" by another person, but these are invariably more teasing sessions than the level of sensation I have been describing in this blog. The person controlling the subject's cock must make sure to contain the level of stimulation, stopping frequently to avoid pushing the cock too far. There seems always to be a trade-off between pushing too far (and losing one's load prematurely) and not pushing far enough (and not attaining that heightened level of bliss that a man's cock is capable of).

It also seems to me that most partners would grow bored manipulating another cock for hours on end while the recipient rides the edge. Perhaps a more satisfying partnership would be two people who choose to edge themselves side by side.

I still watch videos and porn. I love nothing more than chatting on Yahoo Messenger while I edge my cock on cam. (I accept all buddy requests - Yahoo ID: show_joe_00.) But I am no longer searching for someone to do for me what ultimately I can only do for myself. The solosexuals I have chatted with consistently describe how liberating it is to no longer place such expectations on another, and to simply accept that masturbation is their preferred sexual activity.

No one can do you like you can do yourself. The issue is not lack of a partner, but the lack of NEED for a partner.