I have not posted anything new to this series for some time, feeling I had said what I wanted to say. But I have some new ideas that warrant discussion.
I have found myself practicing two forms of edging, which I refer to as closed and open edging. Or clenched versus relaxed edging.
My earlier posts here described closed or clenched edging. The muscles you use to clamp off a stream of piss are the same muscles you use to resist cumming. I spoke of urging the cock to want to cum, then feeling the muscles fight to hold back. This is certainly a worthwhile way to spend an afternoon.
But I have evolved into a second technique of edging that has its place in other circumstances. Instead of clenching down the muscles to control the urge to cum, I do just the opposite, basically opening the gates wide open and trying to keep the sex muscles relaxed.
Here' how it works. When I get really close to spilling, instead of clamping down the muscles to control the cum, I just interrupt the stroke and relax to let the momentary urgency subside. Instead of locking the gates, the gates are open but I just don't push the cum all the way to the gates.
Here's another way I look at it. Imagine a ball on a plank that you can tilt back and forth. (Or imagine cum on the plank.) The ball runs downhill and nears the end of the plank. If the ball rolls off the end of the plank, that is the equivalent of cumming. With closed/clenching edging, you lock down and essentially put a barrier on the plank to prevent the ball from spilling over. With open/relaxed edging, when the ball nears the end of the plank, you tip the plank back slightly, so the ball doesn't spill over.
Open/relaxed edging is delicious, because the gates are always open. I love giving my sex muscles the exotic workout of prolonged closed edging, pushing the muscles past their limits. But at other times, I love the wide open feeling of open edging.
This must be the best blog I've ever seen -- for me that is. Thanks for a carefully thought-out exposition. I'm new to this and expect this has been said, but I haven't seen it. My experience has been different. Clenching engorges me which gets me to the edge faster. Relaxing for me extends the time to the edge -- *and* what's key for me, relaxing the muscles seems to get more of me involved as one progresses to the edge (while not cumming). This sensitizes the whole shaft to the root, rather than the glans focus... Then this can radiate out to rest of the body. The intensity is much greater. For me anyway. This make sense to anyone?
ReplyDeleteIt made sense for me.. (sorry for my not so good english)
DeleteI was reading the whole blog until I came to your comment and finally I find someone who expresses almost my experience. The whole idea of "relaxing" is to "unfold" the time in your mind. ALL the moments turn out to become magical, illuminating, integrating. You integrate all the sensations from the begining, as if you are alone on the planet, imortal, without any "cultural knowledge" about what IS a cock and HOW to feel or to use it. You learn your cock anew. Also the internal feelings of the begging for an orgasm. The urge to cum transforms to an "internal muscle tension", which you can let flow through your whole body. It is complicated to describe all the levels of awareness and wisdom you keep collecting on the process, but as joe does, we all try to exchange our knowledge and experience :-)
Yes following the Taoist,s mthod,s are truly worth while to master and I recommend it. I hope you get plenty of followers,s to your post. Love.
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I seem to remember that your vid shows attention to the glans. I find I get better and better control as I get closer if I keep stroking but slowly work my way down the shaft away from the supersensitive tip.
ReplyDeleteBy the time I'm on the edge but only stimulating the base couple of inches, things are really intense.
I'm probably not telling anyone anything new--just haven't seen anyone refer to this *great* technique... Really like to hear what others do...
... forgot to add that as you work away from the glans, the center of high sensitivity moves too. This is a bit weird since we mostly associate cumming with the tip. But by the time you've shifted the excitement to the base there's huge delicious tension, and it's also kinda easier to back away since the sensation is further from the trigger as I see it. *More* intense, but easier to back off... Does this mean bigger cocks get more pleasure?
ReplyDelete... I *also* forgot to add (lol) my comment on stroking the base and the two kinds of edging -- see show joe's article above on two kinds of edging for his fine description (some guys can get so nicely analytic!), the rise-and-fall kind, and his favorite which is the very-near-the-edge kind.
ReplyDeleteMy contribution is this: if you work away from the tip as I described above, you can stay very near the edge all the time. More than delicious, as show joe says. Anyone do these things? I'm new here.
... *also* forgot to add that working from the tip to the base when you are on the edge is a way to stay close to the edge. Show joe describes two kinds of edging, the rise-and-fall kind, and the stay-real-close kind (with his ball-on-plank idea--see above).
ReplyDeleteMaybe y'all know this, but I haven't seen it mentioned anywhere. Sure like some feedback...
I´m on your "team". Near the base is actually something like a nerve "cable" :-p, that activates the feelings of a deep orgasm, that never comes, because you controll it through your massage on the base. But, as I sayed above, it is the time dimension that expandes in your head, because, you re-learn every sansation anew, like an animal. You explores totaly relaxed the whole body and feel every moment. The penis is not an exception, nore the base of it.
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ReplyDelete(See comments above.) For me, working the cockhead directly is no accident, nor is it a compromise that somehow produces less of an edge. On the contrary, for me it is all about the cockhead. As one of the most sensitive areas of the penis, the more stimulation, the greater the intensity.
Every cock reacts differently and each person must find what works best for him. There is no one-size-fits-all technique.
- Show Joe
I think I'd explode of I worked the head the way you do in the vid. Thx for the perspective--as you say, we're all different. I'll definitey be trying the intense head-stimulation for the extended sessions. I'll be a real challenge...
ReplyDeleteHave you heard of other guys doing the base stroke action I described? (shd I be asking this on private?)
I enjoy open edging for hours and hours most days. I usually cum twice a week but have recently been surprised one night when I got too excited and had 3 complete accidents in a three hour period. Needless to say I'm being very careful lately. I've been doing serious edging for several years now and wish I would have begun enjoying this "sport" many years ago.
ReplyDeleteI open edge daily for many hours and usually do not cum but twice a week but recently I got so excited one night while edging I actually cum three times within three hours. I was surprised and shocked each time because I usually have very good control. Needless to say I'm very careful now. I've been cock edging for several years now and don't know why I didn't learn this "sport" many years ago.
ReplyDeleteI've been edging for hours and keep coming back to this site. I tried to go to sleep but can't right now. My cock is staying hard and I'm totally fascinated by this site right now. I have been stroking my entire penis tonight and don't seem to need to avoid any part of it. Edging is amazingly satisfying and I'm trying to take all the advice I can get on here. I love nipple play but haven't been able to do this for months now because it makes me cum quickly. Any advice how this can be done along with the extreme edging without any accidental ejaculation?
ReplyDeleteI transitioned from clenched to relaxing years ago and what I love most about it is that my penis freely leaks semen, which I love to slurp down, which further intensifies my edge.
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